From Ron Leiber of The NY Times.  This issue comes up again and again, esp for daters 30's and up.  Worth a peruse.

"Is it a mistake to pose in front of your fancy car? Or to request that only people who are financially independent reply? If you say you like the finer things in life, is that code for the fact that you’re seeking a sugar daddy or mama? And how are the rules different, if they are at all, if you’re gay or a lesbian or looking to get married for the second or third time?"